How To Make The Most Of Your 10 Minutes With The Teacher
So you finally get the chance to meet one-on-one with your child's teacher — now what?
Like a good Boy Scout, be prepared: Educators agree that doing your homework before a parent-teacher conference can make a big difference.
The Harvard Family Research Project's Tip Sheet for Parents suggests reviewing your child's work, grades and past teacher feedback. Ask your child about his experience at school and make a list of questions ahead of time to ask during the conference.Care.com — a website that matches parents with child caregivers — created a list of questions to print out and take with you.
A good parent-teacher conference, experts say, should cover three major topics: the child, the classroom and the future.
The Child
Most experts suggest telling the teacher about your child. Describe what they're like at home, what interests and excites them, and explain any issues at home that may be affecting your child at school.
"Often times we don't have any understanding of what happens when a child leaves school," says Amanda Wirene, a reading specialist at the Montessori School of Englewood in Chicago. "Often parents are our only way to know what's going on at home."
Be thorough, but do be aware of the time.
"You always get that one parent who wants to stay forever and tells you in great detail all about their child," says Colleen Holmes, assistant principal at Lincoln Elementary School in Erie, Pa. Share information, she says, and if you need to talk more, schedule another time.
The Classroom
Ask about what's happening in the classroom — both academically and socially.
"Parents have more access to student information than ever before," says Scot Graden, superintendent of Saline Area Schools in Saline, Mich. "Chances are, anything that's going to come up at parent-teacher conferences, the student will already know about it."
By talking to your child in advance, you can ask more specific questions about grades or behaviors, says Graden.
Don't be afraid to ask the teacher to clarify what assessment or grades actually mean.
"Teachers can sometimes use educational jargon that may seem alien to you," Karen Mira writes in The Asian Parent, a parenting magazine in Singapore. "Don't be shy to ask your child's teacher to explain what a certain educational word means."
If teachers bring up areas for improvement, don't get defensive, says Holmes, the elementary school assistant principal.
And don't let the meetings be a dumping ground for pent-up concerns or frustrations.
"We don't want parents to load up on things they've wanted to discuss and are looking to have a sort of 'gotcha' moment," says Graden.
The same holds true for teachers: Lindsay Rollin, a second-grade teacher at Teachers College Community School in New York, says conferences should never be the first time parents are hearing about problems their child is having.
"I am not dropping bombs on anybody," she says.
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