THE SCHOOL I NEVER CHOSE — AND WHY THAT WAS THE POINT
A Second-Chance Dad's 14-Year Education in Public Education
Nikole Hannah-Jones's raw, gut-punch of a piece in The New York Times — where her teenage daughter Najya asks, "Did you know my school was bad like this when you decided to put me here?" — hit me somewhere between the sternum and the conscience. Because I've been there. Not in Brooklyn, not with Hannah-Jones's platform, not with her particular brand of principled sacrifice. But I've been in that exact intersection of ideology, parenthood, and the creeping suspicion that the system you're defending might be eating your kid alive.
Let me take you back. This is my story — part confession, part comedy, part accidental education in how American public schools actually work. Buckle up. It's a long ride, and the portable classrooms never really go away.
The Pregame: Buying a House Like a Nerd
Before my wife and I even had a child, we were already arguing about schools. That's the kind of people we are. We researched charters, toured private schools, read brochures with the same intensity most couples reserve for picking baby names. But here's the thing — we both came out of public schools, and we turned out reasonably functional. So we bought a house one block from an elementary school, within walking distance of a middle school, with a brand-new public high school being built a mile away.
We were basically zoning into parenthood.
Then our daughter arrived, and reality, as it always does, showed up uninvited.
The Boyfriend Incident: Our First DEI Moment
She was four. Four years old. She came home from daycare — a genuinely excellent play-based learning center with trained early childhood educators — and announced she had a boyfriend named Eddie. Eddie, as I discovered the next day, was the most adorable kid you've ever seen: big eyes, bigger smile, pure joy in sneaker form.
Two days later, she came home and told me she couldn't have Eddie as a boyfriend anymore.
"Why?" I asked.
"He's Black," she said.
I grew up under Jim Crow. I didn't have a Black friend until I graduated high school. And here I was, in the 21st century, watching four-year-olds reproduce the architecture of segregation at snack time.
I went to the daycare owner. We had a conversation. We implemented what I can only describe, with full irony intended, as DEI training for preschoolers. It worked. Eddie kept his boyfriend status. The system, briefly, bent toward justice.
The Broken Window Theory (Literally)
Before my daughter started kindergarten, I visited the neighborhood school. There was a broken window. The playground had more brown patches than a neglected lawn in August. I thought: maybe we revisit charters.
Then, the very next year, I visited again. New paint. Fixed window. Green grass. Maintained playground. I thought: public school it is.
I started paying attention to school board elections. I voted for a "reform" board. I had read about No Child Left Behind — the data! The goals! The accountability! As someone who spent years in HR, I loved data and goal-setting. I thought: finally, someone is running schools like a business.
Reader, I was wrong.
Common Core and the Humbling of a Grown Man
Second grade arrived, and with it, Common Core math. I want to be very clear: I could get the right answer. Every time. But I could not — could not — explain it using the box method. My daughter would look at me with the quiet pity of a child watching her father fail at something a seven-year-old had mastered.
My principal, Irene Eister — a training expert, a mentor, a woman of extraordinary patience — turned my complaints back into a question: "What do you know about Common Core?"
"Nothing," I said. "Absolutely nothing."
She told me to research it. So I did. I read the glowing magazine profiles, the op-eds, the think-tank reports. I came back feeling informed. She then asked me to join Site Council.
My wife took over math homework duties. This was, objectively, the correct decision.
Site Council: Where the Real Education Happened
Site Council was where I stopped talking and started listening — and what I heard was a controlled demolition of everything I thought I knew.
No budget for supplies. Teachers and parents donating pencils and paper out of pocket. Thirty computers in the entire school, one hour of lab time per week per kid. Standardized tests weaponized against schools — low scores meant the school could be labeled "failing," shut down, or have its entire staff fired. Teachers, rationally, started teaching to the test as a survival mechanism. Not because they were bad teachers. Because the system gave them no other choice.
This was the earthquake. The ground shifted under my feet.
I was elected to the District Advisory Council (DAC). Before my first meeting, several teachers warned me: "The meetings are wild. Parents are pissed."
I came from HR. I knew about angry people. Angry people are almost always people who aren't being seen or heard. And these parents — many from single-parent homes, many Title I families, many parents of color — had been screaming into a void for years while the district handed them agendas about parental responsibilities instead of actually solving problems.
I literally stood between a parent and a district representative to prevent a fistfight.
Finding the Map: Ravitch, Klonsky, and the Internet Before It Was Cool
I started digging. This was the era of Yahoo bulletin boards and early blogs. The mainstream media was solidly behind corporate reform — NCLB, charter expansion, "failing schools," "bad teachers." Research universities were largely in the same camp. Finding dissenting voices felt like archaeological work.
Then I found Mike Klonsky — a name I recognized from my SDS days, now blogging about small schools. He led me to Diane Ravitch, whose book The Death and Life of the Great American School System was the primer I didn't know I needed. Ravitch led me to Leonie Haimson in New York City. Suddenly I had a map.
I built a website — sacdac.org — in four days after the district spent six months producing a cardboard mockup of what a parent portal might eventually look like someday. Using fair use provisions, I started aggregating information about the corporate reform movement, NCLB, and the battle for public education. First month: 100 hits. It grew from there.
The DAC grew too — from fewer than 20 schools represented to nearly 70. We ran elections, used Roberts Rules, held agenda meetings, provided childcare and snacks. We got five minutes at board meetings. We had parents with backgrounds in accounting, public administration, teaching. We were, against all odds, becoming functional.
The Magnet School Dilemma: Where I Lost the Vote
Seven wonderful years at my daughter's elementary school. Field trips. Spaghetti feeds. Hamburgers and hot dogs at school functions. Parent-teacher conferences where I actually knew the teachers. I was, by any measure, a happy school parent.
Then fifth grade arrived, and the question became: middle school.
Every educator friend I had encouraged us to pursue the magnet school. My wife and daughter were sold — less bullying, more experienced teachers, a stronger academic environment. I was outvoted two to one.
But here's what I knew that they didn't want to hear: magnet schools are, functionally, magnets for wealthier families. State legislators send their kids to magnets. Transportation is on the parent — which means if you have two kids and only one gets the lottery spot, you're splitting your mornings across two schools across town. If you want to volunteer, there's often a waiting list. If the magnate school has a robust PTA and a foundation with serious fundraising, you're leaving your old neighborhood community behind.
I lost the vote. The magnet school was, I'll admit, excellent.
Then came high school, and my wife and daughter chose a small dependent charter operating on Waldorf principles. Still subject to NCLB testing. Still Common Core. But with different methods layered on top.
My daughter had a wonderful elementary school, a superb middle school, and an innovative high school. By any external measure, we succeeded.
Follow the Money: The Part Nobody Wants to Say Out Loud
Here's where I part ways with the feel-good ending.
My district was Title I — 70% of students qualified for free or reduced lunch. When you follow the money in a district like that, you find that magnet schools and dependent charters receive an extra $100 per student. That doesn't sound like much until you multiply it across hundreds of students and ask: where does that money come from?
It comes from the schools that don't have magnets. It comes from the neighborhood schools where the parents who can't navigate the lottery system, who can't drive across town, who can't take time off work to be on a waiting list for volunteering, send their kids.
Middle-class parents who want great neighborhood schools don't typically show up screaming at board meetings. Title I parents do — because they have to. And the reform movement, backed by billionaire money, had a very elegant solution to this problem: call the schools "failing," threaten to close them, replace them with charters, and call it choice.
School choice is not a ladder. It's a trapdoor. It extracts resources from the schools that need them most, concentrates advantages for families already advantaged enough to navigate the system, and then blames the remaining schools for failing. And — strange coincidence — the kids left behind in those "failing" schools are disproportionately Black and brown and poor.
This is what Nikole Hannah-Jones was trying to fight. This is what her daughter paid for. This is what Peter Greene at Curmudgucation is pointing at when he notes that "the threat of exit already exists for that school and yet it has not been spurred to greatness by market forces." Markets don't fix schools. Engagement does. Resources do. Community does.
The Mirror Moment
Hannah-Jones ends her piece with something I've been sitting with all week:
"As long as we continue to rescue our own children from the failing schools where we allow other people's children to languish simply because those children have been born Black and poor in a nation of racism and riches, there is no absolution here. Not for me. Not for you. Not for any of us."
I made different choices than Hannah-Jones. My daughter went to the magnet school. She went to the dependent charter. I told myself it was because I was outvoted. And that's true. But I also didn't fight as hard as I could have, because some part of me — the second-chance dad who desperately wanted to get it right this time — was relieved when the vote went the other way.
The billionaire reformers didn't win because they were smarter. They won because they understood something about parents that we don't like to admit: when it comes to our own kids, most of us will, eventually, take the exit ramp. And every time we do, the highway gets a little more crowded for the families who don't have one.
That's not an accusation. It's a confession.
The author spent 14 years as a parent activist in Sacramento's public school system, serving on Site Council, the District Advisory Council, and running sacdac.org — a website built in four days out of pure frustration with a cardboard mockup.
Sources & Links
🗞️ Primary Articles Referenced
"In Fighting for Every Black Child, Did I Betray My Own?" — Nikole Hannah-Jones, The New York Times Magazine, September 20, 2026 The central piece that sparked the reflection — Hannah-Jones recounts enrolling her daughter Najya in a low-income, predominantly Black Brooklyn school and her daughter's later questioning of that decision. 🔗 https://www.nytimes.com/2026/09/20/magazine/ny-public-schools-black-students-segregation.html
"On Reactions To That Nikole Hannah-Jones Piece" — Peter Greene, Curmudgucation (Substack), September 21, 2026 Greene's measured, sharp-eyed breakdown of the discourse surrounding the Hannah-Jones piece — noting that most reactions simply confirmed what people already believed. 🔗 https://curmudgucation.substack.com/p/on-reactions-to-that-nikole-hannah
"An Education Conservative Is a Liberal Who's Had To Do Cafeteria Duty? What Nikole Hannah-Jones Misses About Public Education" — Andrew Rotherham, Eduwonk, September 21, 2026 A critique of what Hannah-Jones's article omits — successful public school models, charter school data, and the broader class-based dynamics of educational inequality. 🔗 https://www.eduwonk.com/2026/09/an-education-conservative-is-a-liberal-whos-had-to-do-cafeteria-duty-what-nikole-hannah-jones-misses-about-public-education-plus-fish.html
"Choosing a School for My Daughter in a Segregated City" — Nikole Hannah-Jones, The New York Times Magazine, June 12, 2016 The original 2016 piece where Hannah-Jones first publicly announced her decision to send Najya to a low-income public school — the decision she revisits a decade later. 🔗 https://www.nytimes.com/2016/06/12/magazine/choosing-a-school-for-my-daughter-in-a-segregated-city.html
📖 Books Referenced
"The Death and Life of the Great American School System: How Testing and Choice Are Undermining Education" — Diane Ravitch, Basic Books, 2010 The foundational text for understanding the corporate education reform movement — NCLB, charter expansion, standardized testing as weapon, and the billionaire reformers behind it all. 🔗 https://www.basicbooks.com/titles/diane-ravitch/the-death-and-life-of-the-great-american-school-system/9780465014910/
"Small Schools: The Numbers Tell a Story" — Mike Klonsky & Susan Klonsky The book that reintroduced the author to Mike Klonsky and the small schools movement — a reform alternative to the corporate model. 🔗 https://mikeklonsky.substack.com
👤 Key Figures & Their Platforms
Diane Ravitch's Blog — dianeravitch.net The essential daily read for anyone tracking the battle between public education advocates and the corporate reform movement. Ravitch is a former U.S. Assistant Secretary of Education turned reform critic. 🔗 https://dianeravitch.net
Mike Klonsky's Blog / Substack Educator, activist, and author — Klonsky's writing on small schools and education reform was an early bridge between the SDS generation and the modern ed-reform debate. 🔗 https://mikeklonsky.substack.com
Leonie Haimson / Class Size Matters New York City parent activist and founder of Class Size Matters — one of the most tenacious advocates for public school parents in the country. 🔗 https://www.classsizematters.org
⚖️ Policy & Legislative Context
No Child Left Behind Act (NCLB) — Full Text & Overview, U.S. Department of Education The 2001 federal law that introduced high-stakes standardized testing, school "failure" designations, and market-based accountability into American public education. 🔗 https://www2.ed.gov/nclb/landing.jhtml
NCLB Section 1118 — Parental Involvement Requirements The section of NCLB that mandated parent engagement structures — the legislative foundation for District Advisory Councils (DAC) like the one the author helped build. 🔗 https://www2.ed.gov/policy/elsec/leg/esea02/pg2.html
Common Core State Standards Initiative The national standards framework that replaced traditional math instruction with methods like the "box method" — and humbled many a well-meaning parent at the kitchen table. 🔗 https://www.corestandards.org
🏫 Waldorf & Alternative Education Context
- Association of Waldorf Schools of North America (AWSNA) Background on the Waldorf educational philosophy that informed the dependent charter high school the author's daughter ultimately attended. 🔗 https://www.waldorfeducation.org
📰 Related Reading on Corporate Education Reform
"Why Nikole Hannah-Jones's Faith in Public Schools Loses Sight of Some Harsher Truths" — Derrell Bradford, The 74, 2017 Referenced in the Eduwonk piece — an earlier critique of Hannah-Jones's 2016 school choice decision that proved prescient. 🔗 https://www.the74million.org/article/bradford-why-nikole-hannah-jones-faith-in-public-schools-loses-sight-of-some-harsher-truths/
Success Academy AP Scores Lawsuit Coverage — The Washington Post, September 7, 2026 Referenced in Eduwonk — the ongoing battle over charter school data transparency in New York City. 🔗 https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2026/09/07/success-academy-ap-scores-why-were-suing-new-york/
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